For my leaders - at work, at home, in volunteer settings, within your friend group. This one is for you.
I trust you found yourself here because you care deeply about being a respected, fair and trustworthy leader. Below you will find The Leadership Triangle. Taught to me by an Executive Coach early in my career, I have used this triangle to effectively lead teams of 300+ people, manage my actions upper management and serve my 1:1 coaching clients in progressing their skills as brave, honest and empowering leaders.
This activity has 2 parts.
- Look over the disempowerment triangle and, without judgement, see if you fit into one or multiple of the points. Remember, no one else has to know your answer, so take this opportunity to be honest with yourself. It is common to fall into different points based on the circumstance.
- Now review the empowerment triangle. Notice the areas you fall into a disempowered patterns and discover how to shift them to empowered!
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The Leadership Triangle
Persecutor
Disempowered
Quick to blame external circumstances. Rationalize and justifies instead of listening. Fake it till you make it type. Fears being the victim.
Feels hopeless and powerless. ‘Why is this happening to me?’ mentality. Thinks ‘poor me’ in challenging situations. Fear of embarrassment and conflict.
Victim
Rescuer
Feels guilty for letting others struggle or feel challenged. Will take on excess work to avoid others having to take it on. Mentality of I should help the ‘poor you’ type. Fears not being needed.
Creator
Empowered
Focuses on the result. Makes clear and concise requests as per their wants/needs. Takes responsibility for your own growth and positions.
Takes ownership. Committed to learning and openness to a variety of perspectives. Questions beliefs. Releases the need to be right.
Manages themself, not others.
Believes people are capable and creative. Allows others to be responsible for themselves. Practices detachment. Sets boundaries. Takes responsibility for what you want/ need. Insists people ask for what they want/need.
Challenger
Coach
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PERSECUTOR to CHALLENGER
Allows a safe place for the people they lead to fail, and therefore, learn.
Expands the comfort zone of their group with support and tools to achieve their goals.
Focus’ on a team concept, looking at the problem to find a solution.
VICTIM to CREATOR
Focus’ on what they do want, instead of what they don’t.
Seeks possibility and is solution focused for their group.
Willingness to open and honest conversation.
RESCUER to COACH
Aware that people are whole and capable as they are.
Listens to hear, not respond,
to their group.
Allows others to solve their own problems and be accountable
to themself.
Want to take your learning to the next level?
Check out these 3 vital questions!
Applying the 3 Vital Questions
Think of a situation you would like to improve or shift. This could be a personal goal, a new aim for your team or shifts within your personal relationships.
Vital Question #1: Where is my focus?
What do I really want? If I had it, how would I know?
Vital Question #2: How am I relating?
What are my potential roles in achieving this goal? Answer for all 6 points of the Leadership Triangle.
Victim, Rescuer, Persecutor, Creator, Coach, Challenger.
Vital Question #3: What action will I take?
How can I shift from focusing on problems to focusing on outcomes? What is the smallest positive action (micro step) I can commit to to move toward what I want?
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Hi, I’m Michelle!
I am grateful you stopped by because mentorship is my passion!
Through my coaching business, leading teams within organizations of 300+ people, volunteer mentoring for young women entering male dominated fields, I have made it my mission to lead with influence.
If you would like to know more about Stiles Coaching and the ways we can work together, follow the link below.
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